That Christianese term "born-again"! That term is so misused and abused that oftentimes I am afraid to utter it in terms of myself. But there it is ... in John 3:1-9. Nicodemus himself asks in a puzzled voice in Vs 9, "How can these things be?"
The simple truth is this...we can do nothing of ourselves to be "born again" or given "spiritual life". Read Scott's notes from today's sermon at Morningside Baptist Church. Check the additional scriptures carefully, and read thoughtfully for this is an excellent teaching on being "born again".